Tuesday, May 4, 2010

My thoughts on the Stardust/AL drama

First of all I'd like to thank everyone for responding to my last post and advising me to open a Paypal dispute. If someone could email me and tell me how to do this, or if I even CAN do it since I used an e-check, I would really appreciate it. Now to the real issue here... I do have opinions on the drama that has gone on, and I wanted to share my own feelings on it. I am NOT here to point fingers, tell you where to shop, where your loyalties should lie, etc. I would just like to share how I see the situation. I will also say this right now, some of the comments I have read on other people's posts about this are hateful and nasty, to people who don't even have anything to do with this situation. Discuss THIS issue, not any past issues that are completely irrelevant and unrelated. I am NOT going to tolerate people leaving such horrible comments on my blog- if I see them I will do the responsible thing and DELETE them, or I will set all the comments to be approved first. I refuse to allow people to leave derogatory comments about anyone and use my blog as a place to pick fights. I hope I don't have to do this, it's really pathetic that some people can't act like an adult over something like makeup. I welcome your opinions, different as they may be, as long as they are respectful. :) For anyone who doesn't understand what's been going on, I invite you to read this post by Phyrra. I think it seems like a pretty accurate timeline of events. I also think you should read this. I simply do not believe that Jenna had any kind of malicious intent here. I believe her when she says she just wanted some straight answers, and being the owner of another company, any way she tried to find out would be seen as her trying to "sabotage" Aromaleigh. Do I think that creating a fake identity was a good solution to the problem? No, but I can at least see WHY she did it. Do I think she took it a little too far? Yes, at some points, but as I said, I think her intent was just to get answers, not to harm Aromaleigh as a company. People seem to be looking only at the "facts" that demonize Jenna, and not even attempting to look at her side of the story. I looked at her email to MMM, and her blog entry, and they don't seem to be saying two totally different things to me, which is what is being implied (saying this makes her two faced and hypocritical). It DOES seem to me that people are twisting around a lot of what she said to try and make her out as supervillian #1 here. I also don't like how people are doing the whole "I'm being cyberstalked" thing. She didn't say that. She told people to stop harassing her. It is not the same. I also respect the fact that once she was found out, she gave an apology that I personally find to be sincere, and tried to show her side of the story while still not trashing Aromaleigh. I looked at Kristen's twitter and she's not exactly being professional here either. I think calling people psychos and nutjobs and using her kid to make Jenna feel even more guilty is a little ridiculous. I think if this had happened between Stardust and any other company besides Aromaleigh, people would be looking at things a little more objectively. It seems to me that many people ignore any wrongdoings of Miss K, while eagerly scrutinizing other companies. This doesn't fly with me. I don't feel comfortable ordering from Aromaleigh anymore because of some of her actions. I think people are manipulating what Jenna said and putting words in her mouth because they support Miss K. If this is way tl;dr for you- here's my short summary- I don't think Jenna went about handling this in the best possible manner, but she has also apologized for it, and I don't believe she had any intent in harming Aromaleigh. I think there are a lot of people who would follow Miss K and slam anyone else, regardless of the situation, and Jenna's words are being twisted to make her look bad. I will still continue to shop at Stardust because I think Jenna is a nice person who had good intentions, but didn't necessarily cary them out the way she should have. Thoughts and opinions? Keep it civil.